今天的原文來自Medium網站付費文章，摘錄了Jordan Peterson的書《12 Rules for Life》中的十二條法則。這本書我沒有看，我摘錄了豆瓣上的一個書評放這里。
這本書包括了Jordan Peterson的生活十二法則，不管是對個人，還是對社會，都是一劑良藥。
貫穿這本書的一個主題就是人生并沒有那么絕望，個人的改變是可能的，生活有希望變得更好。毫無疑問，從小事做起，你可以每天進步一點點。生活的本質是一個悲劇，這個世界也并不那么友好，但我們要正確地對待這些問題，而不是一味地扮演一個受害者的角色，像祥林嫂一樣，活在過去的陰影里；或者像一個巨嬰，拒絕成長。
生活的十二條法則，用JP自己的話來說就是一些讓你不再可悲的法則，因為他本人也是這些法則的實踐者，而且他正實踐著，所以他說的這些并不是空中樓閣。他對自己的缺點和不足之處也非常坦然地承認，而不像有的作者一味地自吹自擂。
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If you make happiness the meaning of life, every time you’re not happy, you’ll feel like a failure.-- Jordan Peterson
Rule 1. “Stand up straight with your shoulders back.”
立正站好，抬頭挺胸。
If you face a bad day with a good attitude, it can still be a meaningful one.
Posture holds power.
While you can overdo the “fake it till you make it” of how you carry yourself, making an effort to not collapse in the face of adversity(逆境) — both mentally and onto the couch — is empowering(有力量的).
You control whether you walk straight or slouch, whether you smile or look grumpy, whether you focus on what went wrong or what needs to be done.
Reminding ourselves of this control when times are tough can dramatically transform our experience of how tough times actually are.
Show up, stand straight, smile. Conquer your attitude, conquer the day.
Rule 2. “Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.”
善待自己，就像善待我們有責任好好對待的他人那樣善待自己。
The only perspective we have on life is our own, and since we have to look at everything that’s in it, it’s easy to miss things. Our friends, however, see only small parts of us — but those parts they can see clearly.
It’s easy to see a relationship isn’t working when it’s not yours. When it’s your friend making the career choice, the answer seems obvious.
Ask yourself: “ What would my friends tell me to do?” What would a neutral observer see and say? If you can look into the mirror and tell your reflection the tough truth they need to hear, you’ve finally learned to act in your own best interest.
Rule 3. “Make friends with people who want the best for you.”
交真朋友
True friends connect with you because you believe in the same things.
Honesty, curiosity, humility, whatever they are, upholding(保持) those beliefs will often mean putting your interests above their own — and that’s what true friends do. You deserve true friends.
Rule 4. “Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.”
要攀比，但要正確地攀比，不是和別人比，而是和昨天的自己去比。少兒英語外教
A woman who earns 500,000 per year will feel great in a neighborhood where everyone else makes 50,000, but she will be miserable in Dubai.
If you must compare, look at yesterday’s photographs of yourself. Look at how far you’ve come, what you can be proud of, and remember what you’ve learned along the way. But whenever you can, don’t compare at all.
Rule 5. “Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.”
不要讓孩子做讓自己討厭他們的事情。
When your son punches a fellow student, it’s not his behavior that makes you angry. It’s the failure as a parent that stings. “What example did I set that he wanted to punch him in the first place?” That’s an ugly question to answer.
If you don’t want to bail your kids, your partner, your friends out of trouble, teach them how to become the kind of person that does not get into it. Be aware of the example you set every day.
Defend moral lines if you must, but as long as you can, assemble those around you on the same side of those lines by showing them what taking a stand actually looks like.
Rule 6. “Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.”
先把自己的事情處理好
We have a saying in Germany: “ If everyone sweeps in front of their own doorstep, the streets will be clean.” It’s true.
You’re never done becoming, and there’ll always be things left to improve.
Every morning, pick one of those things to work on. Focus on that.
Look inside, fight your own demons, and by 4 PM, you’ll find yourself smiling at your neighbor rather than shouting at them — because one hard battle every day is enough.
Rule 7. “Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).”
追求有意義的生活，而不是一時的歡愉。
When Voldemort returns in Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, Dumbledore eventually tells Harry:
“Soon, we must all face the choice between what is right and what is easy.”
You and I aren’t fighting dark magic, but every day, we choose between what is right and what is easy.
You can cut someone off in traffic.
You can sell a supplement you don’t believe in.
There are plenty of opportunities to take convenient but immoral roads.
Or, you can do things the hard way — and make your life easier. Not because you’re carrying a light load, but because you strengthen your back every time you shoulder it, all while alleviating your conscience.
Rule 8. “Tell the truth — or, at least, don’t lie.”
不要撒謊，因為撒謊會讓我們變得脆弱，我們自己能感受到，別人也能感受到。但是說真話又很難，因為事實的真相本身就很難說清，所以至少不要說謊。
Lying works today but gets harder with every tomorrow. The truth may feel uncomfortable now, but every day that it’s out will make your life a little lighter.
A building made of lies is a fragile construct. One tiny mistake, and the whole thing comes tumbling down. The truth is a solid foundation. It only grows inch by inch, but it’ll never crumble beneath your feet.
Rule 9. “Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.”
假設和你對話的人知道一些你不知道的事情。
I’m not sure why Peterson is assuming. It’s a fact: Every person you’ll ever meet knows something you don’t.
No one better captured what to do about this than the Greek philosopher Epictetus:
“We have two ears and one mouth so that we may listen twice as much as we speak.”
Rule 10. “Be precise in your speech.”
說話不要含糊，要準確。其實很重要的一點是有話一定要說出來，因為只有說出來了，清楚地表達了，問題出在哪里才會一目了然，而唯有如此，才有解決問題的可能。
There’s that famous scene in The Notebook where Ryan Gosling asks Rachel McAdams, over and over again: “What do you want?”
This is a tough question. Humans are complex creatures. But we appreciate whoever makes an honest effort to give us a straight-up answer.
This goes beyond your relationships. Your own words to yourself should also be clear.
“I want to be rich” is a dream .
“I want to own a house on the beach in ten years” is a plan .
Words matter. Think hard about the right words.
Rule 11. “Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.”
當孩子們在玩兒滑板的時候不要去打擾他們。
When I was a kid, me and my friends used to race down a long hill with our scooters.
One time, we skidded on wet foliage and fell. We got up, walked for a bit, and then we got back on our scooters.
Failure is an essential part of life. If children don’t have room to experience it on their own, they’ll be ill-equipped to handle it later when it really matters.
Life is not safe — or at least, always playing it safe will not lead to a good life.
We can’t childproofour world, so how about we just let them be a part of it?
Rule 12. “Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.”
如果有什么能讓你微笑，花一點時間去記住它。
If something makes you smile, take a second to remember it.
Let the moment linger. Don’t rush past it so you can shuffle more papers.
Small moments are what life is made of. At the end of it all, these moments are what we’ll remember.
Maybe, you’re more of a dog person. That’s okay. You can also pet those. You can get ice cream if they have your favorite flavor. You can say “Thanks” to the sun for shining today.
However you choose to show it, don’t let moments pass by without noticing them. Moments are all we have.
